Sunday, May 6, 2012

The Do's and Don'ts For Really Good Sex

The Do's and Don'ts For Really Good SexWhen you`re always writing about sex on a daily basis, it is very easy to get caught up in the idea that we should either be inventing a new position or discovering some new zone. But sometimes, it`s a good to remind ourselves to stick to the basics.

These tips never go out of style. They`re also really easy to pull off.

1. Don`t rush: it`s much simpler and sexier for your partner to say "faster, harder", then "wow, slow down there cowboy."
2. Provide positive reinforcement: total silence sucks! Having some sort of review is necessary. Plus, it`s an easy way to dabble into dirty talk. And, if you can`t find the right words, noises will work just as well.
3. Don`t assume that just because you`re in love, it can`t be dirty: the idea that marriage or monogamy is the end of dirty is totally an old myth that should be de-bunked on a regular basis.
4. But, do ask your dating partner permission before giving a money shot right in the face: that`s just good manners.
5. Have an over active imagination: talking and fantasizing together about whatever it may be is important. Include your partner in your fantasies when it is appropriate. If you`re having sex with your partner and you`re thinking about someone else, it`s probably a good idea to keep that under wraps.
6. Practice reciprocity: do onto others as you would have done onto you. But, you can`t except your partner to have the same values as you do. However, you should assume that when your partner tickles your back, it`s not just because they`re being nice, but because they would like you to tickle their back too.
7. Don`t assume what has worked on previous partners will work on your present one: The biggest mistake you can make is assuming that you know it all.
8. Tell your partners what you like, but don`t expect them to like it: there is a difference between having a preference and being a fascist.
9. Don`t rip off clothes indiscriminately: it might seem like a good idea but in real life a lot of times the clothing is not replaceable and could be an important item to your partner.
10. Do have some sense of humor: there`s nothing worse than a serious person. If you fall off the bed while trying a new position, don`t be embarrassed, laugh it off and live proudly.